Divorce
Santwana Todi
(Querist) 29 November 2013
This query is : Resolved
I am a qualified company secretary working with an MNC. I got married to my husband almost 2 years back. It was a love come arrange marriage. My husbnad is a very aggressive person and he gets angry even on smallest of the thing not only with me but with everyone including starngers, family members, friends. In the first year he was very aggressive he used to hold my neck, abuse..He had the habit of drinking, smoking which I did not like and I tried to control it as much as I could in a polite way only. Everytime anything happened he used to call his mother and complain. He also had a liabilty of around 2-3 lacs by virtue of over limit of credit cards. I tried and sorted out most of his problems. His uncle also tried doing an unethical thing with me for which his family blamed me only but fortunately my husband supported me in this matter. Apart from this I never got his support. In the initial 2nd year he was fine and we were leading a good life. In the later half he again started the same as he used to behave in 1st year. The house is always run by my salary because his salary was used to pay off his liabilities. Now on this bhai duj we had an small argument which led to a big fight and then he hit me badly. I forgave him for this after a period of 7 days. Things were falling in place again after few days he fought with me on a small things and took my set of house keys forcefully and then I had to call the police to get them back. Though the complaint was not registered and police resolved it over the phone itself. Now he's calling both of our family members and saying that ask her (me) to leave.. Since I am fed up with all the fuss created I am planning to shift to PG will this step go against me in future whenever divorce petition is filed. Things to note are:
1) there were continous fights in every 3 months
2) He mortgaged my jewellery for paying off his loan but couldnt and then all my jewellery is with my mother in law even if I ask for it she says no I will not give you as you will again blame my son
3) Even after so much of financila issue he did not change himself and he still continues taking loans form here and there for one or the other reason
Please advise
ajay sethi
(Expert) 29 November 2013
file for divorce . husband has tendency to live beyond his income .
your mother in law cannot retain your jewellery . you can also file 498A case /Dv complaint
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 29 November 2013
no reply to aq.
