Mental harrasment
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Anonymous
(Querist) 15 December 2011
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My mother-in-law is the main problem of my marital life. She is a tremendous dominating lady. She teaches her son to fight or beat me . Whatever she say I have to do at any cost whether that is good or wothless, unless she will say to her son and he start to make me emotionaly harrasment. She says every thing lie against me to everybody. She is trying to make me alone from my all reatives. She always try to say that I am mad and make the scenes infront of my husband.She wants to snatch my kid by pressuring me. She makes all the situations by herself and starts to make fight with me and my husband every time. In this kind of situation infront of my kid we have to fight which is not good for my kid and our relation.even for money puspose also she is very much dominating. I am earning though they start to make clutters and taunt for my money and materials which I buy by my will.
I dont want divorce. Please suggest how to settle our marital relation strong without mother-in-law.
1. Is it necesary that I have to live with my mother-in-law whole life?
2. Is it correct that I have to do all things according to mother-in-law or husband? Cant I live as I want?
PLEASE SUGGEST ME POSSITIVELY....
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 15 December 2011
It is very common:
The Percentage of Marriage breakdown due to strain relationship of MIL: DIL is very high.
It adds when wife is working and educated
It further add when wife's relatives are residing nearby [20km radius ]"My mother-in-law is the main problem of my marital life. She is a tremendous dominating lady"
YOU CAN LIVE AS YOU WANT.
GO OUT OF HOME, SEND A LEGAL NOTICE FOR CHILD'S MAINTENANCE, AND DEMAND RESIDENCE,
Keep Quite for 3 months, Let your MIL & H live without your child. It will prssurise them to think over, and settle , when you raise your problem, when they will understand your difficulties and settle.
Adv Shroff
15-12-2011
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 15 December 2011
Try marriage counselling dear.
If you and your husband can remain un-influenced by others, you could be happy, otherwise not.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 16 December 2011
You are certainly not required to stay with such lady whole life but for that your husband needs to see the reason and get separated if it costs all of your lives.
Marriage counseling would definitely help if your husband is willing to co operate.
Sailesh Kumar Shah
(Expert) 17 December 2011
you are suggested to follow advise of Ld. experts.
