Complain against false blame
Senthil kumar
(Querist) 29 January 2013
This query is : Resolved
Hi Friends,
To introduce myself i am senthil kumar.G,COIMBATORE.
My family consists of me and my father only, my mother passed away 12 years back
I got married on Nov 2011.
My wife belongs to chennai and she worked for a BPO Job, at night shifts for about 2,3 years.
She resigned the job before 1 month of marriage.
After marriage she found difficulty in household work and unusual eating time and sleeping time etc.
we tolerated and managed every housekeeping activities and advised her to take rest ,moreover we also adviced to take responsibilities some activities of house hold work but she was never serious.
she created silly issues and seperated my father and me and moved to a different place and started living.
Since she is not performing the household work at the new house also, we both had quarrels often and not involved in family life too often.
last week the problem gone to peak and i asked her to leave the house since she was blocking to visit my father and sister's place.
I wrote a email to her father, that she is spoiling the atmosphere and peace of mind.
but her father wrote a rude and harsh reply that i am not potential on sex and as a result she is quarreling.
I am annoyed and upset.
Can anyone tell me how should i handle this legally for my safety
regards,
Senthil kumar.G
ajay sethi
(Expert) 29 January 2013
is the marriage consummated ? consult a marriage counsellor
Senthil kumar
(Querist) 29 January 2013
Yes ,its been consummated. but my father-in-law is blaming that i am impotent.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 29 January 2013
thwen you reply by email to your father in law that marriage has been consummtaed and you have been regularly having sexual relations with your wife .
ajay sethi
(Expert) 29 January 2013
in addtion to remove apprehensions of your father in law regarding your potency say that you are willing to get yourself tested provided father in law pays the bills for the tests
Senthil kumar
(Querist) 29 January 2013
oh great,thanks.
Infact my wife had a problem of small vagina and as a result i was not able to insert properly.
She also had a fear that the intercourse will be very painful.this was created by her married friends.
she also have the quality of eccentric behaviour and adament on small things and not able to tolerate any advice regarding her mistakes. As a result the quarrels was on a day to day basis within us.
This was the result of my non-interest with sex with her because i lost peace of mind.
Now i am afraid that her father and herself may blame me on any other dowry case or something( but we din get any dowry), i need to safe guard myself and my family.
What step should i take legally?
ajay sethi
(Expert) 29 January 2013
it is better you convince your wife that both should visit a marriage counsellor .
you have to convince your wife that sex is not painful . if your wife is sufficently aroused by foreplay then penetration wont be painful .
