Women protection
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Anonymous
(Querist) 17 April 2016
This query is : Resolved
Respected, all,
I am a student, 26years old woman. Last year I met a guy in my college. As a senior he helped me in my study. Suddenly he proposed me and I said no to him because of his odd behaviour. And he insulted me for the rejection. But constantly, by suicidal thread he forced me to accept him. And after a long time I accepted him. But from the very first day, he constantly giving me mental pressure, torturing me. And doing voulger doubts which are totally wrong. And giving me blame by using slangs. I told him to leave me if I am a so wrong person. But simply, forcefully he try to keep this so called relationship. He did all the wrong things. As, one of the incidents, He asked me to sleep with him to prove my virginity. I have rejected his wish. And shouted at him and he said he recorded my voice while I was shouting, because of it to prove that I am wrong and torturing him. But he is doing totally wrong to me. I want to move on and go away from him. I said everything to his gurdian. But they have not take any step. Now he has made vulger rumors and spread it to my college and society. And showing that he is innocent and I cheated on him. And he is telling lies to everyone. Recently, I come to know that he had done almost same things with his x-gf. While she was trying to protest him, he slapped her infornt of everyone and send her to the hospital and showed that the girl was wrong. And destroyed her reputation and character too. We have relationship for 6months. And he thread me to destroy my study, career and reputation. And he is doing so. And also giving thread to my family by showing he has political power and he said no law and police can do anything to him. And force me to keep the relationship. But I can not because I can not tolerate him anymore. Now I am afraid about my family and my reputation and career. Please, suggest me, what should I do to protest him? I want a legal advice for permanent solution to protect my family and my self.
Guest
(Expert) 17 April 2016
1) Myself student , I feel this person is not stable keep away from him.
2) Don't heed his suicidal thread and don't do any thing wrong which is held morally wrong (like sex before marriage) , Friendship is one thing but if you cross limit before marriage then it will affect your life permanently and more problem , Be bold in this respect. Sex before marriage is Completely wrong in all respect.
3) See we too have dozens friends of opp. gender , this relationship etc. is of no consequence and person should be stable to understand this at this age , Only marriage else it is simple friendship nothing more
4) He did all the wrong things--- Don't allow any stupid things to do with you even if it is not sex. This is not done by cultured boys , even if it is love etc after marriage not before marriage.
5) You are correct under any circumstances don't sleep with him and most imp. thing now be careful don't eat or drink what he offers or when you don't know content , There are bad cases , I have heard. Don't meet him or any friends (Including your trusted) friends privately or private picnic or private parties (Precaution is better than cure , this person seems not stable)
6) This cheating and all what rubbish he is talking has no meaning you too grow up people break engagement, they take divorce so yours is nothing forget it and his nonsense
7) This relationship should be stop immediately be bold , Only friendship or if you feel suitable with permission of elders marry
8) Complaint to Principal of your College immediately (First Prof in charge of your class, then HOD ,then Principal)
9) If he is giving threat to your family then he has crossed his insane limit further , Dial 100 from your cell no. and ask address of Women Cell from Police Department. And tell women cell women officer about this and ask for guidance if limit is crossed. You can get women cell detail if your city police website is there
10) If that cartoon is from Maharashtra then send Personal Message to me , I will connect him to higher authorities of State administration on Phone and tell him to say which contact he has to person on line opp. to him. Let me see which contact this cartoon has.
11) There is State Women Commission too you can approach them directly , In state women commission office one Police officer of rank next to Dp. Director General of Police force seats , Whole establishment he can use to put that chap in proper direction.
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This I feel you do without taking on record legally any thing. If you say to women cell they will help you , and nothing will be taken on record too. So no tension that anything bad will happen to him. But this nonsense will stop. Tell Women officer I want this nonsense to stop , this person have crux on me and troubling me .
Since it is legal forum I prefer to put legal points too
1) The Sexual Harassment of Women at Workplace (Prevention, Protection and Redressal ) Act 2013
I tried to cut and give you imp points but PDF had problem so I prefer to give you direct link of Act
http://www.iitbbs.ac.in/notice/sexual-harrassment-of-women-act-and-rules-2013.pdf
Else search this act online you will get it . As women I feel you should read this act once.
In life fact is that women get such cartoon many times.
First start with light medicine and eventually move towards stronger dose.
Well don't go by my name it is my first name and myself boy . But I feel this boy one screw is not proper
P. Venu
(Expert) 17 April 2016
The query is too long. It contains some actionable wrongs, but too many are the mere apprehensions, opinions and hearsay. Only a good lawyer, after personal discussion, can guide.
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 17 April 2016
no reply 2aq.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 17 April 2016
Anonymous query, no reply.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 17 April 2016
summarise your query and post your problem than expressing any opinion.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 17 April 2016
1. Disclose your identity for "some" FREE legal experts advise as per rules of this site.
2. Too long a story for which the experts on this platform have no time and energy to form an opinion after going through it.
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