Mental harrasment by mother in law
Sanchita
(Querist) 21 November 2013
This query is : Resolved
From the first month of marraige, my mother in law start mentally harrasing me.
First it came with giving my salary, then taking care of household chores, she started interfering everywhere in all my relationship with my husband.she never allowed me to keep a maid, though I was ready to bear al the exprenses
Off late she has started with a weird thing.
Before marraige I was diagonised with a hormonal problem in 2009 which was cured in 2009 itself.i hot married in 2011.and in 2012 I had an ectopic pregnancy.now my mother in law has taken all medical reports from me, really didnt want to give them back, I got all the xerox copies and she kept the original ones with her.
She claims she has gone to 4 gynaes and 2 endocrinologist who have said that I will never be able to conceive.
She has taken all my reports and have filed a case against me under 420 and 406 that we had hidden and had wrong intentions for marrying.
She keeps on telling me to leave the house by giving a mutual divorce.she has been telling from 2012 onwards to leave the house.
Her verbose is so sad, she calls me by names.
I am in a dilema what to do.
As she cooks food am afraid she might poison me.
Can I lodge any type of complaint with the local police that she might even try to kill me.
She has often told that she would slap me.
What actions can I take
My husband is neutral.sometimes he supports me and sometimes his mother.
Guest
(Expert) 22 November 2013
Request Your husband to shift to separate house leaving his mother.Whatever support required by his mother let him do it. All the allegations made by you against your mother in law is most common in newly married life.Do not get upset or irritated by your mother in law s behavior Try to sort it out amickably with out upsetting your husband since he seems to be a gentleman.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 22 November 2013
file complaint under DV case if situation dosent improve . mere inability to conceive is no grounds of divorce .
if your husband is agreeable to staying separate with you it would be an ideal solution .
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 22 November 2013
This is common in newly married life. Have patience and try to keep your husband in confidence. Try to have separate house. Try to adjust, however don't accept cruelty and in such case take help of DV Act.
Sanchita
(Querist) 22 November 2013
I have the folowing queries:
1)If my husband somhow gets mouldered by his mother and they both go and File a case that am not able to conceive,will the case stand?
2)How and where to a go and file a complaint against DV act.
3)After filing a complaint where do I stay?
4)Can I go file a complaint that am not feeling secure in my inlaws place?
5)Also tell me can a case under 420 be filed in this case I had mentioned
Also today we all had been to the doctor,where the doctor said all reports were normal.
Now post marraige after my ectopic I had been diagonised with TSH.Now she has started to say that am not a normal child so the child I will bear will be special,so she wants to terminate the marraige.
Guest
(Expert) 22 November 2013
First Confirm what is in your husband s mind.Then you decide what to be done.Your safety and security for not only now even in future has to be kept in mind.Are you capable to take care of your livelihood till the matter gets settled in courts.Once You file Dv AGAINST YOUR mother in law be sure your husband will turn against you.Be prepared for all the consequences before you could decide.Once you decide approach the near by court where you could find the Free Legal Aids Forum which would certainly help and guide you.There could be a Womens Legal Aid Forum also.Think twice and decide For your safety women harassment help line number is 1091.Please check and confirm.In Mumbai it is 1291 and 1298.please confirm and keep
ajay sethi
(Expert) 22 November 2013
1)mere inability to conceive is no grounds for divorce .
2) compliant under Dv act can be filed before magistrate wherein you are residing
3) continue staying with your husband
4) no case of cheating is made out against you
engage a local lawyer . he will guide you
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 22 November 2013
well advised by the expert ajay sethi ji.
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 22 November 2013
if your husband is agreeable to staying separate with you it would be an ideal solution .
Otherwise ur hus is first a SON of ur MIL.
Try to be affectionate// If u love him, love his mother also...
Otherwise it proves, u only love ur self, not him, and surely u will trouble him after few years..
no alternative, u r too selfish..
Likec ur hand & leg, mil is part and parcel of the family body of ur hus,
Pulling it out pains both// and all too.
Try to help each other..
No law here. No mother will care for their son, once it will eatablish that he can leave mother under the instruction of his wife.
Will u love ur son, if he is going to be away from u in future???
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 23 November 2013
Your husband should interfere and tell his mother that all her allegations are immaterial; even some abnormality exists, they have to go along with it and can not simply go for divorce. If they attempt such steps the law is always with the girl and they may have to face the music. Let your husband come to a conclusion what to do. If both of them together and continue harassing you; take shelter with Mahila Protection Centers in the area. You can get the address by browing the Google.
Surrender K Singal
(Expert) 23 November 2013
Expert Shroff has opineed practically; State Commission for Women or NCW can be alerted about your apprehensions with actual instances of harassment / threats
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 23 November 2013
Adv Shroff has touched the query in right prospective.
Sanchita
(Querist) 30 November 2013
I have the following updates in my case.
We got a call from the Police and were expected to meet the Police with respect to the complaint my Mother in Law had done.
I and my husband have met the Police.he took my statement and said he would close the case.
Do you apprehend anything else from my mother in Law.Can she try out any other routes?
To further state she had placed a complaint against me under Section 420 and 406 of IPC.
These are points in my defense:
Section 420 is for cheating which I have not done ,because until and unless am married no one can tell whether I can conceive or not.And moreover I have all reports stating that am quite capable of conceiving
Please help me understanding how Section 406 comes into picture here.I do not understand legal matters very well
