Plz advise in 498a,406 and dv
anil yadav
(Querist) 29 October 2012
This query is : Resolved
sir
plz advise me on these facts
i am a student and my wife is a govt. employ with rs20000 salary.a flat is also alotted on her mane (govt. flat).me and my wife live in her flat in delhi and my parents live in another place in haryana.
me and meri wife 31/5/2012 tak saath rahte the lekin meri wife ne mujhe flat se nikal diya and mera koi bi saaman and my documents bi nhi diye.iske baad mere parents ne bi mujhe bedkhal kar diya meri wifr ke behave ke karan.
and mere naam par koi property bi nhi.meri wife ka affair shaadi se pahle apne village ke ladke se tha mujhe shaadi se pahle pata laga lekin meri MIL ke maafi mangne and unki izzat ke liye maine shaadi kar li .un logo ne mujhe stamp paper par apni handwriting me with signature meri wife ki affair ke baare me likh kar diya and aage aisa nhi hoga likh kar diya.lekin meri wife shaadi ke baad bi apni adultry me h but koi documantry and photo garph etc koi proof bi nhi de rhi.and mere saath nhi rahti and kahti h naa divorce dungi and 498a ka case karungi.
mere pass koi bi jariya nhi h apna maintance ke liye kyoki mere sabhi documents meri wife ke pass h and ghar walo ne meri wife ki adultry ke kaaran mujhe bedlhal kar diya h.
plz suggest ab mujhe meri wife ke 498a,406 and DV ke case se kaise safety karu.plz advice me
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 29 October 2012
Koi safelty to nehi hoti hai. Bas GD karte rahein local PS mein.
Ek divorce suit file kar dijiye jisme uske aafair ke barer mine jikar karein aur usime alimony mangiye u.s 24 of HMA mein.
anil yadav
(Querist) 29 October 2012
sir what is meaning of GD and PS
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 30 October 2012
KABHI SOCHA HAI KI TUMHARI KYA GALTI HAI
KABHI SOCHA HAI KI KIS GALTI KO SUDHAR KAR JIWAN THEEK KAR SAKTE HO.
Tumhari galtiya to tumhare shabdon mein tapak rahe hain
anil yadav
(Querist) 30 October 2012
mr. sudhir kumar
plz mujhe meri galti bata dijiye
mujhe to koi galti lagti nhi h kyoki maine ek mother ki izzat ko nilam hone se bachaya tha. and ek ladki ki izzat ko bachaya tha.lekin mujhe uss ka acha sila mila .
plz trll me meri galti kya h
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 30 October 2012
Nee not to describe that the marriage is without consent of your parents.
You have described your identity as student hence unemployed property less. Why a Govt employed girl shall at all marry you by writing a stamp paper unless some false representation of facts were there regarding your status or prospects. A Govt employed girl with Govt qtr in Delhi does not have so low matrimonial prospects.
My god. What type of person you are who will extract a fidelity bond from wife on a stamp paper. You perhaps imagined that you were purchasing a slave and seller must give you warrantee. Such bonds are not voluntarily given unless coerced beyond dignity. YOU HAVE NOT STATED WHAT WAS THE TIME GAP BETWEEN MARRIAGE AND BOND. You also expect that even after this behavior your wife will respect you particularly when you have neither income nor shelter while she has both.
You are still justifying that “maine ek mother ki izzat ko nilam hone se bachaya tha. and ek ladki ki izzat ko bachaya tha” It is strange that if a girl had affair before marriage then how her mother’s Izzat was put to nilam. Yes it is understood that Izzat would have been at Neelam if you refused to marry at short notice. So they had to agree to give bond on stamp paper.
Anyway that bond is a good evidence about the way of your thinking.
You are still saying that she has adulterous life but there is no evidence. Does it not mean that you want to encash the bond given by her. It is funny when you say” documantry and photo garph etc koi proof bi nhi de rhi”. In case the allegation of adultery is true then you mean to say that she should provide you evidence.
You have stated you have been thrown out by her but has not stated why. This is unusual even for a cheated girl. The reasons leading to such action on her part will revealed more material.
Mr Burman has clearly advised you that “Koi safelty to nehi hoti hai” So better it is that you should beg for mercy. As described by you, it appears you have no resources to fight court case and if 498a is filed then you. This case can give you food and shelter at Govt expenditure.
So it is anyway better to beg for her mercy.
anil yadav
(Querist) 30 October 2012
mr. sudhir
maine 4 year BHMCT (hotel management) and B.A kiya h.and presntly D.ed me first year h.and shaadi se pahle main bedkhal nhi tha and mere mother and fathet govt. employ h anf meri age 23 h .
jab humari sagai hui thi tab maine apne last year ka exam diya tha .meri sagai 7/7'2012 ko hui thi.
lekin mujhe meri wife ke affair ka sagai se 3month baad pata laga tha .jab tak shaadi ki sabhi tayari ho chuki thi.lekin jab mujhe pata laga to maine shaadi karne se inkar kar diya tha leki jab meri MIL and meri wife ne mujhse and mere parents se shaadi karne and izzat bachane ko kaha.(meri wife ka affair jis se tha wo meri wife ke village ka ladka tha and married tha).lekin maine inkar kar diya shaadi se tab meri wife and MIL and BIL ne aa kar mujhe stamp paper par likh kar diya meri wife ki adultry ke baare me and kaha ki aage se aisa nhi hoga plz humari izzat rakh lo.tab maine apni MIL ki izzat ke liye shaadi kar li sirf 1rupia liya tha maine shaadi me.and aur jo bi samman aaya tha wo sab delhi meri wife ke flat par bhej diya tha.and uske baad maine job karne ke liye kai baar intrview diye and select bi hua lekin meri wife ne mujhe job nhi karne di and phir mujhe apne flat se nikal diya and mere documents and aur sabhi saaman nhi diya.in sab baato ke mere pass sabut h .
ab bataiye meri galti kaha and jaha hum delji me rahte the waha par koi ek bi person ye nhi kahta ki meri galti h bulki sabhi meri wife ki galti batate h .maine bahut coopratte kiya lekin usne shaadi sirf naam ke liye ki thi.
plz ab bataiye meri galti.
plz reply
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 30 October 2012
It is clear that you will not work. You are qualified.
Nobody will believe that wife did not allow you to join job. On the contrary wives are aggrieved if husband does not work.
It is well understood from your stamp paper story that you have refused marriage with employed girl (though yourself working nothing) at the last moment . You humiliated that family and extracted a promise on stamp paper.
My dear you do not know what adultery is? There cannot be any adultery as long a she was not married.
You also said “jo bi samman aaya tha wo sab delhi meri wife ke flat par bhej diya tha” to kya gunah kiya? Saman apni beti ke liye diya tha.
Lagta hai isi bat se naraz mata pita ne bedakhal kiya.
You said “delji me rahte the waha par koi ek bi person ye nhi kahta ki meri galti h bulki sabhi meri wife ki galti batate h” par un logon mein se kitney gavahi denge. Sabooton ka labh to tab milega jab mukadma ladne ka dam hoga.
Ek bar khul kar to batao ki shadi love marriage thee ya arranged.
anil yadav
(Querist) 30 October 2012
dam bahut h mr sudhir ji and saaman delhi bhej diya tha ka matlab h ki humne apna saaman delhi me apne saath le gaye the and mere parents ko koi problem nhi thi is se kyoki shaadi ka saaman ladki ka hi hota h na ki in laws ka.and mere parents ne is baat ke liye mujhe bedkhal nhi kiya balki meri wife ke relatives ne mere mother father ke saath maarpitai ki thi and ye shaadi maine apni responsibilty par ki thi jab mujhe affair ka pata laga tab mere parents ne bi inkar kar diya tha tab maine kaha tha ki aage meri wife koi galtu kare ti main aap se allag rahuga.so jab wo ladai karenge to mere ghar walo ne bedkhal jar diya and kyiki maine hi kisi ki izzat ke liye ye kadam utaya th.
lekin app kahte h ki dum nhi h mujme case karne ka meri wife ki call recording and stamp paper h mere pass and bahut sabut h jo proof kar sakte h ki main innocent hu..
aap mujhe ye bataiye ki kya is desh me unemploy hona apne haath ki baat h .and i am a regular student maine kou drop nhi kiya h.
and mr. sudhir ye love marriage nhi thi .jab ek wife badroom me apne husband ke saath kisi another man ki baath kare and sex ko denied kare and baar baar dhamki de dowry cases ki to ek unemploy husband kya kar sakta h.aap sirf women ka favour kar rhe h na ki meri problem jo ki hakikat h us ko solve nhu kar rhe
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 30 October 2012
pahle professinal course kiya. Par kam nahin.
phir unprofessional course kiya. Am DEd kar rehe ho.
kamana kab shuru karoge. shadi pahle he kar lee.
ladki ki man se charitr ke liye samp likhwate ho aur ummeed karte ho ki vah tumhari izzat bhee kare yet kaise ho sakta hai.
kabhee kamhte ho ki koee saboot nahin hai kabhee kahate ho call recording bhee hai. Kahan se kaise ki yeh alag baat hai.
kabhee kahte ho maintenance ka bhee tota hai kabhee kahte ho ki dam dahut hai.
ishwar meheraban rahe par bina paise ke mukadma ladna asan nahin hai jabki dowry kanoonaurat ke haq mein hai meri hamdardi le loge to bhee nahin badlega. hajaraon rupaye to ek aadmi kee jamanat main lag jate hain aur tumharee wife koee tumhara akele ka naam to likhvayegi nahin.
tumhari problem solve hone ke liye tumhara kamana jaroori hai. dilli main kamana mushkil nahin hai.
behtar rahta ki HM qualification ke dam par koee job le lete phis shadi ke bare main sochte to itni dikkat na hotee. Par gharee aur calender to wapis nahin chalte.
phir ab teaching ki taarf ghoom gaye jisme private sector mein tankha bahut kam hain aur sarkari ke bhartee prakriya lambee hai, yedi chune jao to bhee. abhee course bhee pura nahin hai. Yeh course poora hone se pahel agar wife in 498a likhva diya to yeh chance bhee khatam.
So fauran Kamana shuru karo.
Unemployed rahana apne haath kee hee baat hai jisme unemployed rahne kee lagn ho to aadmi saree umar unemployed rah sakta hai.
anil yadav
(Querist) 31 October 2012
mr.sudhir
aap kahte h ki galti meri h ok.
1)plz aap bataiye ki meri wife govt. employ thi phir bi usne unemploy se shaadi kyo ki
2)and shadi se pahle stamp paper kyo diya aisi kya majoori thi ki ek govt. employ ladki ek unemploy ladke se shaadi kare and wo bi stamp paper par apne affair ke baare me likh kar de jab ladka shaadi se inkar kar de to uske affair ke kaaran
3)jabki wo rista tod sakti thi wo majoor nhu thi shaadi ke liye and na ladke ke pass koi proff tha uske afair ka phir kyu likh kar diya (maa,beti and bhai ne)
4)mr. sudhir har sike ke 2 pahlu hote h
5)meri wife ne mujhe itna pareshan kiya h jis ki koi had nhi h
5)maine nhi kaha tha stamp paper par likh kar dene ke ke liye
) meri wife ne humari property and dono parents govt. job me the and main hotel management kar raha tha dekha tha .
koi aise hi shaadi nhi karti ladki
lekin meri wife ye 498a ka case sirf hum sab ko control karne ke liye and apne affair ko continue rakne ke liye h
7)meri wife saaman us ke pass h saara jo shaadi me mila tha ye maine isliye bataya tha ki main is ka solution pata karna chahta tha aap se ki agar wo kahti h ki saaman us ke pass nhi h to mujhe kya krna chahiyr kyoki in cases me aisa hi kaha jaata h wife ki side se.
8) plz suggest meri kya galti h and rha unemploy to ye koi jaruri nhi h ki sab ko job mile and ye meri study ki traf lagaw h ki main padaai karna chahta hu
9) rhi case ki baat to us ke liye legal aid se mujhe advocate mil jaiga and agar nhi milta h to mere dost and kuch relative aise h to meri marte dum tak help karenge and rhi kisi aur ke involve hone ki baat is case me meri family me sabhi job karte apne aap apni bai karea lenge mujhe koi tension nhi h.
plz aap mujhe sahi advice dijiye mujhe demorlize mat kijiye balki mujhe motivate kijiye ki mujge is battel ko kaise win karna h
10)aap ealder h and bahut knowlledge h aap ko aap meri help kijiye
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 31 October 2012
ur Q "meri wife ne mujhe itna pareshan kiya h jis ki koi had nhi h"
Ans : Intajar karo
Husband jab D.V Act ka istamal kare,
ab to kanoon sirf aurat ke taraf hai.
ham vakil aur court apko nyay dene se majboor hai.
Sarkar "equal" kanoon banaye, to nyay milega.
anil yadav
(Querist) 31 October 2012
mr. shrogf sir
koi to rasta hoga jis se galat ko galat and sahi ko sahi sabit kiya jaa sake .kya is india me husband hona ya shaddi karna gunah h ya apna ghar bassana jurm h.
kya ek men kuch nhi kar sakta .kya agar husband saccha ho to bi us ko nayay nhi milta is desh me.
kya husband ke pass in sab se bachne ka sirf trika sucide h
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 31 October 2012
ISHWAR PAR BHAROSA RAKHOGE TO DIN JAROOR BADLENGE. SACHCHE MAN SE DOSH MAN LENA SHANTI KEE TARAF PAHLA KADAM HOTA HAI.
You are putting question after question and I can still analyse you anxiety so that you can reaslise the gravity without which you cannot fight back with situation.
1)plz aap bataiye ki meri wife govt. employ thi phir bi usne unemploy se shaadi kyo ki
Ans : Agar wah kahegi ki berojgari chipayi gayee thee to koe bhee man lega. Aisa bahut ladke karte hain taki unki berojgaree par annch na aye aur kamana na pade.
2)and shadi se pahle stamp paper kyo diya aisi kya majoori thi ki ek govt. employ ladki ek unemploy ladke se shaadi kare and wo bi stamp paper par apne affair ke baare me likh kar de jab ladka shaadi se inkar kar de to uske affair ke kaaran
Ans : Jab shadi se kutch waqt pahle ladka mukar raha ho to ladki valon ke pas do chare hain. (i) use dowry case mei wahen arrest karva do (ii) uskee mang pooree karo.
Agar vah kah degi kee jhootha iljam lagakar tumbe stamp paper managa to koee bhee man jayega. Koee man baa paisa stamp paper tab tak nahin likhenge jab tak vah majboor nah on aur ladka majboori ka labh u uthaye.
3)jabki wo rista tod sakti thi wo majoor nhu thi shaadi ke liye and na ladke ke pass koi proff tha uske afair ka phir kyu likh kar diya (maa,beti and bhai ne)
Ans Kaise tod deti bachhon ka ghar ghar khel hai kya. Saari tayyari ho jaye aur ladka mukar jaye to mang to poori karnee hee hoti hai.
Yes vaise rishta todkar dahej ka case banva sakti thee aisa us ne nahin kiya tum par daya kee.
4)mr. sudhir har sike ke 2 pahlu hote h
Ans : Par tumhara apna pahloo hee tumhare khilakh material de raha hai. Jab voh daroga/judge ke samne bolegee to kya hoga.
5)meri wife ne mujhe itna pareshan kiya h jis ki koi had nhi h
Ans : Berokgar se shadi se pada torture kisi aurat ke liye nahin hai.
5)maine nhi kaha tha stamp paper par likh kar dene ke ke liye
Ans : Right par manage kaun.
) meri wife ne humari property and dono parents govt. job me the and main hotel management kar raha tha dekha tha .
koi aise hi shaadi nhi karti ladki
Ans : Right par manage kaun.
lekin meri wife ye 498a ka case sirf hum sab ko control karne ke liye and apne affair ko continue rakne ke liye h
Ans :Koee nayee baat nahim hai.
7)meri wife saaman us ke pass h saara jo shaadi me mila tha ye maine isliye bataya tha ki main is ka solution pata karna chahta tha aap se ki agar wo kahti h ki saaman us ke pass nhi h to mujhe kya krna chahiyr kyoki in cases me aisa hi kaha jaata h wife ki side se.
Ans : You are already advised.
8) plz suggest meri kya galti h and rha unemploy to ye koi jaruri nhi h ki sab ko job mile and ye meri study ki traf lagaw h ki main padaai karna chahta hu
Ans : Main Kahna nahin chahta tha Jisko table par baithne ka job na mile to bhee kamate hain. Auto chalate hain, ghar ghar jakar saman behcte hain, dookan par sell karte hain, etc.
Berojgaree majboori bhee hoti hai par chaska bhee hotee hai.
9) rhi case ki baat to us ke liye legal aid se mujhe advocate mil jaiga and agar nhi milta h to mere dost and kuch relative aise h to meri marte dum tak help karenge
Ans : Legal aid se advocate mil jaye achcha hai. Uske liye apka paksh prima-facie majboot hona chahiye.
Dost? Relative?
Koee pas nahim phatakta. Batein jaroor karte hain kuch din tak sath bhee jate hain par jaldi hee shauk utar jata hai. Anjan admi phir bhee shayad madad kar dega
and rhi kisi aur ke involve hone ki baat is case me meri family me sabhi job karte apne aap apni bai karea lenge mujhe koi tension nhi h.
Ans : Dahej kanoon jalim hai. Ektarfa hai.
Please carefully read what Mr Shroff has stated above. He is much senior expert than me.
Job karne wale ko bail mil jaye aisa jarooree nahin hai. Pure pariwar ko sankat mein ghaseetna uchit nahin hai
plz aap mujhe sahi advice dijiye mujhe demorlize mat kijiye balki mujhe motivate kijiye ki mujge is battel ko kaise win karna h
Ans : Ki baat ke liye motivate Karen.
10)aap ealder h and bahut knowlledge h aap ko aap meri help kijiye
Ans : You have been advised by Mr Burman. Mr Shroff. You must buy peace and start earning immediately (lawful means)
You have asked from Mr Shroff if suicide is the way. THis forum does not encourage crime. Forum also does not encourage pessimism.
PEACE IS NEVER TOO COSTLY. BOTH OF YOU CAN MEET MARRAIG COUNCELLOR. But for buyin peace you have to agree where you were wrong.
1)plz aap bataiye ki meri wife govt. employ thi phir bi usne unemploy se shaadi kyo ki
Ans : Agar wah kahegi ki berojgari chipayi gayee thee to koe bhee man lega. Aisa bahut ladke karte hain taki unki berojgaree par annch na aye aur kamana na pade.
berojgar ka shadi ke liye han bolna hee unuchit hai bhale hee ladki tayyar ho.
2)and shadi se pahle stamp paper kyo diya aisi kya majoori thi ki ek govt. employ ladki ek unemploy ladke se shaadi kare and wo bi stamp paper par apne affair ke baare me likh kar de jab ladka shaadi se inkar kar de to uske affair ke kaaran
Ans : Jab shadi se kutch waqt pahle ladka mukar raha ho to ladki valon ke pas do chare hain. (i) use dowry case mei waheen arrest karva do (ii) uskee mang pooree karo.
Agar vah kah degi kee jhootha iljam lagakar tumne stamp paper managa to koee bhee man jayega. Koee maa baap aisa stamp paper tab tak nahin likhenge jab tak vah majboor na kiye jayen aur ladka majboori ka labh u uthaye.
AISA STAMP PAPER LENE WALE LADKE KA APMNA KOEE BHEE LADKI KAREGI.
3)jabki wo rista tod sakti thi wo majoor nhu thi shaadi ke liye and na ladke ke pass koi proff tha uske afair ka phir kyu likh kar diya (maa,beti and bhai ne)
Ans : Koee hee man lega ki agar affair hota to vah affair vali jagah shadi kar saktee thee.
Kaise tod deti bachhon ka ghar ghar khel hai kya. Saari tayyari ho jaye aur ladka mukar jaye to mang to poori karnee hee hoti hai.
Yes vaise rishta todkar dahej ka case banva sakti thee aisa us ne nahin kiya tum par daya kee.
4)mr. sudhir har sike ke 2 pahlu hote h
Ans : Par tumhara apna pahloo hee tumhare khilakh material de raha hai. Jab voh daroga/judge ke samne bolegee to kya hoga.
5)meri wife ne mujhe itna pareshan kiya h jis ki koi had nhi h
Ans : Berokgar se shadi se pada torture kisi aurat ke liye nahin hai.
5)maine nhi kaha tha stamp paper par likh kar dene ke ke liye
Ans : Right par manage kaun.
) meri wife ne humari property and dono parents govt. job me the and main hotel management kar raha tha dekha tha .
koi aise hi shaadi nhi karti ladki
Ans : Right par manage kaun.
lekin meri wife ye 498a ka case sirf hum sab ko control karne ke liye and apne affair ko continue rakne ke liye h
Ans :Koee nayee baat nahim hai.
7)meri wife saaman us ke pass h saara jo shaadi me mila tha ye maine isliye bataya tha ki main is ka solution pata karna chahta tha aap se ki agar wo kahti h ki saaman us ke pass nhi h to mujhe kya krna chahiyr kyoki in cases me aisa hi kaha jaata h wife ki side se.
Ans : You are already advised.
8) plz suggest meri kya galti h and rha unemploy to ye koi jaruri nhi h ki sab ko job mile and ye meri study ki traf lagaw h ki main padaai karna chahta hu
Ans : Main Kahna nahin chahta tha Jisko table par baithne ka job na mile to bhee kamate hain. Auto chalate hain, ghar ghar jakar saman behcte hain, dookan par sell karte hain, etc.
Berojgaree majboori bhee hoti hai par chaska bhee hotee hai.
9) rhi case ki baat to us ke liye legal aid se mujhe advocate mil jaiga and agar nhi milta h to mere dost and kuch relative aise h to meri marte dum tak help karenge
Ans : Legal aid se advocate mil jaye achcha hai. Uske liye apka paksh prima-facie majboot hona chahiye.
Dost? Relative?
Koee pas nahim phatakta. Batein jaroor karte hain kuch din tak sath bhee jate hain par jaldi hee shauk utar jata hai. Anjan admi phir bhee shayad madad kar dega
and rhi kisi aur ke involve hone ki baat is case me meri family me sabhi job karte apne aap apni bai karea lenge mujhe koi tension nhi h.
Ans : Dahej kanoon jalim hai. Ektarfa hai.
Please carefully read what Mr Shroff has stated above. He is much senior expert than me.
Job karne wale ko bail mil jaye aisa jarooree nahin hai. Pure pariwar ko sankat mein ghaseetna uchit nahin hai
plz aap mujhe sahi advice dijiye mujhe demorlize mat kijiye balki mujhe motivate kijiye ki mujge is battel ko kaise win karna h
Ans : Ki baat ke liye motivate Karen.
10)aap ealder h and bahut knowlledge h aap ko aap meri help kijiye
Ans : You have been advised by Mr Burman. Mr Shroff. You must buy peace and start earning immediately (lawful means)
You have asked from Mr Shroff if suicide is the way. THis forum does not encourage crime. Forum also does not encourage pessimism.
PEACE IS NEVER TOO COSTLY. BOTH OF YOU CAN MEET MARRAIGE COUNCELLOR. You can have a very happy and prosperous life. But for buying peace you have to agree where you were wrong.
