Jocasta syndrome
Swapna Vengatesh
(Querist) 13 September 2016
This query is : Resolved
My mother-in-law is not allowing me and my daughter to live with my husband cause she is suffering from Jocasta Syndrome. My husband L. J. Vengatesh who is a lawyer is not able to relieve himself from his mother's emotional blackmail and is not even speaking to me or seeing our child who is just 6 months old. L.J. Vengatesh being a lawyer has abandoned his first child from his first marriage cause of his mother's sickness of jocasta syndrome. Now he is repeating the same. Pls help me and my daughter to live with my husband and father of my child. Thank you.
Swapna Vengatesh
(Querist) 13 September 2016
Pls advice how i can get together with my husband in a legal way.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 13 September 2016
Incestuous Or non-incestuous...........
Try first with intervention of elders of the family.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 13 September 2016
Legal recourse will not help though you can file suit for restitution of conjugal rights.
Getting in touch your husband and getting him convinced to come back to you remains only option.
Swapna Vengatesh
(Querist) 14 September 2016
Mr. Doab I really don't know whether i can state it incentious or not according to legal terms cause to me its just sickly behaviour by my mother-in-law. A few examples for u to decide. My mother-in-law comes out from her bath semi nude i.e. covering only the front side of her body with a towel and exposing her nude backside in front of my husband L.J. Vengatesh who is a practising lawyer in the Madras High Court and says when asked by me seething with anger that she is after all in front of her son (45 yrs old). Next she insits that she will massage my husband with oil and says insists on watching him bathe. I really don't want to say many more such incidents cause its just disgusting to even thinkabout it.
Swapna Vengatesh
(Querist) 14 September 2016
Ms. Devajyothi I have only an aged mother who is 72 yrs old and a sister who is married. My father passed away when I was 8 yrs old and I have no brothers. But still my family went to speak but were only abused cursed and threatened by my mother-in-law and father in law and on their instigation my husband too. Since my father in law was only a sanitary worker in the Chennai Corporation and retd its very difficult for an educated family to stoop to that level. Plus my husband L.J. Vengatesh being a lawyer at the Madras High Court is only talking legality to bail his mother out.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 15 September 2016
We can imagine your situation. There is also a legal solution but the path is so long and expensive in all terms that a layman finds it near to impossible to achieve its goal by adopting that path and ultimately compromises with the situation.
As you told having no means to fight, no support of family members and the stature of your husband....all these are big hurdles to take up the legal path.
Guest
(Expert) 15 September 2016
Dear Swapna,
In fact, Jocasta syndrome is a serious type of a complex disease. In psychoanalytic analysis, the Jocasta complex is the incestuous sexual desire of a mother towards her son, which is prohibited, being unethical.
If your story is true, I don't understand, why you take that as emotional blackmail of the mother of your husband where she prohibits you and your child to live with them. Probably, indirectly, she may not be liking that your small child should get accustomed to that bad and illegal habit after observing any untoward incidence.
So, if you really don't want separation from your husband, instead of any legal measure, you have to make your relations feasible and sweet only by your loving attitude towards your husband. Although for that you may have to make extraordinary efforts.
Otherwise, divorce is the alternative, but that is likely to legally harm your husband and mother-in-law.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 19 September 2016
Agree with the expert P. S. Dhingra.
