Tortured husband
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Anonymous
(Querist) 16 September 2011
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Respected Sir,
I am a tortured husband of a lady to whom I got married just before 7 months. I am suffering from my wife in every aspect like she wants me to do only like as she wants.Even she wants me to separate me from my parents of whom I am the only son of my parents and wants all her control over my earnings.As I did not respond her bad acts, she has left me since last 5 months and has began to reside in her parent’s home, instead of living with me at my parent's house. When I requested her to come back to our home, She gave me the following two options on which she would ready to come to our house.
1. She does not want to stay with my parents and wants me to live in a separate accomodation only with her.
or
2. She is ready to live with me and my parents in a joint family only when I jointly share my salary account with her.
She had sent me a legal notice so as to live in a separate accomodation with her with many false allegations to which I sent a reply through legal notice to her proving all her allegations as false. After my reply notice, she told me on phone that She is ready to live with me and my parents in a joint family only when i jointly share my salary account with her. I refused her on this.
This cleary shows her cruel mentality and cheating nature.
Latest again I sent a legal notice to her asking her to come to her matrimonial house unconditionally and she is staying at her parents house without any reasonable cause/reason. She has not sent any reply to that notice and she is staying till today in her parent’s house. Now Since last 2 months, I have stopped phone conversations with her.
I am totally cheated by her and her parents as they told during marriage discussions that, she is good girl, well co-operative and adjustable girl, and even I informed her before engagement that, my parents will stay with me to which she and her parents agreed.
Now I am in very disturbed state of mental condition, and due to this disturbed condition I am unable to do my projects.
Sir, here I once again request you to keenly observe her and her family behaviour and their moral values and the way they are resolving the issues in a very immoral, arrogant and torturing way. All these things have highly disturbed me mentally.
Kindly also suggest me filing the petition of Divorce by Mutual Consent with reason as Unretrievable Breakdown of Marriage.
Also please provide any other valuable suggestions and help me to come out of this trap. I am not willing to continue my marriage life with her.
Thanking you.
mahendrakumar
(Expert) 17 September 2011
I think,you have not sought any legal opinion as you have engaged an advocate and sent legal notices.
you have also mentioned that you are not willing to continue marriage.so what could we say?
still as an elder person,I feel,you should have an introspection of the entire episode.
Just within a time frame of 7 months after the marriage,everything seems to go upside.
before sending legal notices,have you tried to involve common relatives/friends?
Have you tried any marrital counseling?
R.Ramachandran
(Expert) 17 September 2011
You cannot file any divorce petition unless at least the marriage is 1 year old.
As regards, Mutual consent Divorce petition, I am not sure whether your wife would be agreeable to that. Even if she agrees, you can file that petition also only after 1 year of marriage.
Having exchanged legal notices and replied, whenever she says that she is ready to come and live with your parents provided you share your salary account with her - you should have said that ok let me consider it but for that you send me your detailed proposal in writing so that let there be not any misundertanding from my end of what you are saying over phone! By this sort of methods, you should try to get her statements in writing (though she may also be smart and try to avoid it). But you should try to gather such evidences. These things will come in handy in case she takes any other legal action against you.
Once you have decided not to continue the marriage, better ignore her and concentrate on your work.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 17 September 2011
If i remember it is a second post of yours.
so many advises came for your guidance.here too also,there are many.you need to collect evidence,and then act as there is time.you may revisit my advises they to have the vital
energy you need to coup with.
Guest
(Expert) 17 September 2011
I agree with Shri Ramachandran.
Shastri J.K.
(Expert) 17 September 2011
I also agree with Shri Ramachandran.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 17 September 2011
I think in the present circumstance it would be best for you file a suit for restitution of conjugal rights against her.
girish shringi
(Expert) 19 September 2011
I do agree with the experts.
