Divorce
anchal
(Querist) 09 October 2016
This query is : Resolved
Hey. I've been dating this guy named Om for two months now. He was once married and has a three year old daughter, However his wife is staying away from him for the last 2.5 years. We really want to get married, though she is a good woman he says, but in their 5 years of marriage, they have never been happy, it has been traumatizing for him. He has left home earlier, but that's no solution. Lately her wife came to know about our affair, and even when he's tried to convince her about a divorce, she won't agree. After 2.5 years she wants to come back and basically she kept his family happy, they don't really have a strong reason to split, but this man would prefer committing a suicide rather than staying with her. She disturbs his mental peace & his family loves her. Also my boyfriend got a threatening call from a police station saying if they continue asking for a divorce, they'll charge him with dowry & adulteration charges. He is in so much stress, please help.
Guest
(Expert) 09 October 2016
Miss Anchal,
To be frank, you have not been able to carve out a good story out of your hypothetical problem.
By the way, as you stated, though she (his existing wife) "is a good woman he says, but in their 5 years of marriage, they have never been happy," is there any reason for you to think that you would be happy with him after marriage with him?
On the other hand, in contradiction to your own statement that she is good lady, how you think, "She disturbs his mental peace & his family loves her?" A question arises, have you personally noticed that she disturbs his mental peace? If so, in what way you treated her a good woman?
Your further statement, "this man would prefer committing a suicide rather than staying with her," also seems to be quite vague. By the way, if after marriage he again prefers to commit suicide, what would be your reaction?
In deed, your description is quite ridiculous!
Better forget the episode in your own interest, even if there is a slightest truth in your story.
Kuummaar AS
(Expert) 09 October 2016
Anchal,
Be specific about help required from the experts.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 09 October 2016
There is no future of your relation with the person, better part as soon as possible.
By this you would be able to save a marriage, life of the child and can get better future for you. Try to think yourself in the position of first wife, tomorrow situation can be with you.
Marriage without divorce would be illegal and divorce procedure may take 3-5 years in contested divorce, it may eat out your best time of energetic life.
Better leave the family to decide among themselves.
Ms.Usha Kapoor
(Expert) 10 October 2016
Leave your boy friends family and let them decide themselves as to their current and future status of Marriage and keeping it amicably.
