Arya samaj and court marriage
Vicky
(Querist) 29 November 2013
This query is : Resolved
Hi,
I am planning to get married through arya samaj mandir. However parents of both of us are against our marriage and later on it could result in some family conflicts.
Requesting your advise on the best possible way to be used to get married to each other and avoid family intervention/conflicts as well.
Also pls suggest what all legal/non-legal steps are we required to take in this situation.
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 29 November 2013
First of all what is your earning status? What is the age of both of you? Why both the families are against the marriage?
Marriage performed by Arya Samaj is legal. You have to register your marriage with the Registrar of marriages. These steps will make the marriage legal and it will a proof if there is any conflict about the marriage by later.
As regards family conflicts, that all depends upon on both you. Both of you sit together and analyse the reasons for objections. You are independent,majors, having separate income for yourself, you ask your both the parents as to why they are apprehensive. Listen to them carefully. If there are any valid reasons, try to give clarifications. Ignoring the parents and getting yourself married is the last step. You have to convince them, clear their doubts, together assure them that their apprehensions are only apprehensions. Nowadays unless there are strong reasons, parents are also accepting such proposals though initially they make objections. It all depends upon your true love, convincing power, your commitment towards family. After all, the parents have toiled a lot to bring both of you to this stage. Marriage out of family will never keep you happy. Avoid such position as far as possible.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 29 November 2013
Well advised I have similar views
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 29 November 2013
if both of ur major go for AS marriage.
Ms.Nirmala P.Rao
(Expert) 29 November 2013
I concur with experts. Well advised by Mr.Jaggarao.
Vicky
(Querist) 29 November 2013
I am 28 and the girl is 27 and we both are financially stable and capable of making our marriage successful. The only issue is that it is a inter-cast marriage and both of our parents are strongly against it. I know I will be able to convenience my parents eventually but the main issue is to convenience her parents. who are not even ready to listen to her.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 29 November 2013
if both are financially stable and love each other go ahead.however do bear in mind that you would have many adjustment issues .
Vicky
(Querist) 29 November 2013
we are ready to make all the adjustments for each other. The issue is not us, its her family which can create some problems.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 29 November 2013
You can very well marry each through Arya Samaj or through marriage registrar.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 29 November 2013
Marriage through arya samaj or under special Marriage act, do it now if you have chosen to live with her in the future as husband and wife. Try convince her parents,if they do not agree, get married against their wishes and live away from them. It is your life, how long you think you can prolong the issue by asking suggestion from each and every one you come across.
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 30 November 2013
Agreed with expert Mr.Kalaiselvan.
As you are confident that you can convince your parents now or later, the girl should also have such confidence. It appears she does not take further steps without the consent of her parents. You have crossed the age of innocence, financially stable, love each other you can go ahead with your marriage plans. Parents will reconcile later in such cases. Do not be harsh with the parents but make them clear that they can not stop the marriage.
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 30 November 2013
Legally speaking, u can marry.
Morally, : Wait for consent of parents:
Don't do w/o their BLESSING..
