harressment by daughter in law
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Anonymous
(Querist) 16 April 2011
This query is : Resolved
Dear All Experts,
I need your valuable time and advice as my family is passing thru a very very sad and strange phase of life .
We are /were 3 siblings –Myself the eldest son ,then a sister and a youngest bother (whom we have just lost on 20th March 2011 , at prime age of 37 years)
My younger brother got married in November ,2008 (Love cum arrange ).He was blessed with a son who is 1 and half years old .
Since 2004 , Meself, my mother(she is 68 years old) , my deceased younger brother are residing at II floor of a kothi , (This is owned by my sister ).After my younger brother’s wedding his wife was also living therein till the untimely demise of my brother.
Immediately after my brother’s wedding his wife started raising demand of living separately from the joint family but my brother was not ready to live without his family and mother.
She kept harassing and teasing him for living separately .He had started living in depression and when things went beyond his control he had started consuming alcohol about a year back.
His wife started teasing him more in last 3-4 months. He was under lots of stress & tension. Apart from forcing him to leave his mother she used to tease him that he has an affair .My brother was very sensitive & emotional guy . He loved his wife a lot .Under depression he had consumed excessive amount of alcohol in last 2-3 months. He never shared his problem with any of us in spite of asking him so many times . His wife used to fight with him if he talks to his mother, sister and brother. In the house he had confined himself to his room only .When he had stopped going to his work for 2-3 days then his mother got an alarm and went to his room to see how he is .Then she noticed that he is not keeping well .She took him to the hospital on 26th Feb 2011 where it came as a shocking news that his lever is damaged , he is suffering from alcoholic hepatitis and cirrhosis .He was admitted in the hospital from 27th Feb 2011 till his untimely demise ie 20th March 2011 .
The family always used to wonder what was wrong in his life that he had started living in his own shell and having alcohol .We never thought anything wrong between husband and wife as theirs was love marriage and my brother used to love his wife a lot .
The day before his demise when he was taken into ICU , at that time his cell was handed over to me .I read many nasty SMS in his Inbox sent to him by his wife in last 2-3 months . They were all like blaming him that he is only for his family and that I do not have any time for you, you have an affair ,I hate u etc etc .Sent items from him to his wife were all explanatory that I love u d most , tum kab samjhogey etc etc..
I got a clue of his depression but to the shock of our life .I kept shut and thought to see this matter later on . I gave mobile to my sister for safe custody .When we were taking the dead body of my beloved brother for his last journey , his wife had a courage ,sense, calculations to took his mobile from my sister’s hand (who was sense less at that time and busy in crying and consoling mother )and to delete all nasty SMSs from it . Later on when I found all SMSs deleted my sister enquired her and she admitted it that she did it as she was guilty but after her family advised her she took a turn that these were normal SMSs but no answer if normal why she deleted it at that critical and saddest time .
Soon after my brother’s tehravi ceremony , his wife , her parents and all relatives started misbehaving with my mother and us and started demanding money , samaan, jewellary ,property .They did not even care about the untimely , unfortunate demise of our brother.
To our unfortunate fate , my mother just 20 days back of my brother’s demise bought the ground floor of the hose where we are living . This house she bought after taking a loan from my sister . Since then till date my deceased brother’s wife , her parents and relatives are occupying the ground floor of the said property. They refused to leave the property in any manner and threatened us to face dire consequences if we raise our voices. Also they have threatened that if my mother any of her family members would make any complaint against them then we would be implicated in false cases and they would use women harassment cell against us. They are already spreading in the whole locality that we used to beat her and used to ask then dowry (which is absolutely baseless)
My mother and we are not allowed to enter her own house .We are so afraid to enter as they will put allegations they we entered and beaten them . They are not even allowing us to meet 1 and half years kid who is the only nishani of my deceased brother and is the only grandkid of the house.
My mother has 1 plot and this ground floor , both of it is self acquired properties of my mother and is in her own name. We do not know what we should be doing at this point of time when they are already trespassing my mother’s property.
What should we do in this critical situation. We are afraid that she can use weapon of dowry harassment against us .How to get the possession of my mother’s floor . How to get rid of this problem .I know about the kid …law won’t give us the custody as natural mother is alive.
Please suggest.
Regards
Jitendar Kumar gupta
(Expert) 17 April 2011
Dear you have really a great problem. it will be batter to mail me all the documents so that considered opinion can be given.
J.K.Gupta Adv.
New Delhi
9868529732
guptajkin@gmail.com
