Wife demands divorce
Rock
(Querist) 17 April 2013
This query is : Resolved
Dear Experts,
I am an Indian working for an IT company. I have been married 2 years now and frequently traveling to onsite due to work requirement. After marriage I & my wife lived for 6-8 months together and had few fights and misunderstandings which i took care of. she works in a Non-IT firm. I used to travel onsite for 3 months and 2 months in India. We had few fights were family also got involved and spoke about divorce and separations. Recently we had our families talk about this and decided we will separate. but after few days i realized that i couldn't live without my wife and I loved her so much. So i started to call her up. But now my wife says that she wants divorce and she has already found another guy. I couldn't believe that she could have found a guy within 1 month of separation. She does not picks up my call, she doesn't responds to emails. Her parents are telling me to marry another girl and leave my wife. I went to India to convince her, but she was very strong at it and said she cannot live with me. Now I left my onsite opportunity and planning to return to India permanently. I met her once and tried to convince her but she says that she now likes another guy and after divorce she will marry him. She says that she chats with him and speaks over phone. I am so surprised that my wife could so such a deed. I am not willing to go for divorce. I love her so much and want to live with her. Please advice what should i be doing. I love her so much.
Anirudh
(Expert) 17 April 2013
Dear Mr. Rock,
You cannot make an unwilling lady to live with you as your wife. Any amount of convincing will not fetch you the results.
Though it may sound little odd and unpalatable, you should consider yourself lucky that she is ready for divorce. Please make up your mind, go ahead and submit the application for divorce on mutual consent basis.
After divorce, better try to look for a girl suitable to you and live a happy married life.
Any other option will not work out for you and it will be sheer wastage of time, and since she is determined, she may even go to any extent bring difficulties to you, in case you don't agree for mutual consent divorce.
Rock
(Querist) 17 April 2013
Dear Anirudh,
thank you for the prompt response.
I know its very difficult to digest this fact. However is there any way where the law or court can give us some time to understand each other. I just want to 2 months time where i can prove to her that i have change so much and have left many things just to live a life with her. I dont have bad habits but till date i was more focused on career rather then family. I want to show her that I have changed. can the court give time for 2 months to talk to each other or arrange some counseling for both of us. Please advice.
Anirudh
(Expert) 17 April 2013
The family court will always give time and in fact the family court will first send both of you for counselling. Therefore, you will definitely have enough time at your hands. BUT WHAT IS TO BE WEIGHED BY YOU IS THE FACT THAT SHE SAYS THAT SHE HAS ALREADY FOUND A GUY, AND SHE WANTS TO MARRY HIM AFTER DIVORCE FROM YOU. HER FAMILY ALSO SEEMS TO SUPPORT HER MOVE. PLEASE CONSIDER, IN CASE YOU DO NOT AGREE FOR DIVORCE, SHE HAS EVERY POTENTIAL TO EMBARRASS YOU. KNOWING THAT SHE HAS SOMEBODY IN HER MIND, IF YOU STILL PERSIST FOR CONTINUANCE OF YOUR MARRIAGE AND RESIST THE DIVORCE, YOU WILL REPENT LATER.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 17 April 2013
agree for divorce . if you refuse to give a divorce to harass you she may file DV / 498A case against you . move on in life . wish her best of luck
