Family dispute
Abhinay Kumar Shaw
(Querist) 25 November 2011
This query is : Resolved
Mr. X has 3 elder brother and 1 younger brother. 1St elder brother got married before 5 years and having 1 daughter and 1 son. 2nd elder brother got married before 4 months.
There is always lack of mis understanding or we can say difference in way of thinking between Mr. X's mother and 1st Sister in Law.
Due to that there always use to be chaos in the family and as usuall 1st elder brother supports his wife and other 4 brother supports their mother.
During the chaos somethimes 1st elder brother started beating his wife.
So Mr. X is thinking that in such a way if any accident occurs in the future then he will be involved in the matter unwillingly.
So Mr. X is seeking advice from you that if there is any law or regulation in order to get protection.
Thank you very much to all for your valuable response but you know as the elder brother have two children so all the family loves these children very much and thats why we want to stay together and make the life lucid of the children.
But the elder brother and his wife is taking undue advantage of that emotions.
Any way we told him lots of time for shifting but he use to promise or threaten that ok in some time he will leave the home but again there is no response at all.
An in that way they are spoiling the atmoshphere of the house and destryoing the life of children as well.
Apart from that as we use to live in a flat so it's not feasible to make them seperate.
Please suggest me more.
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 25 November 2011
Sort this matter amicably.
If the family is too big and there are other places to stay, shift that brother and his wife to that place.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 27 November 2011
SO YOU ARE LOOKING FOR LAW??????????/???
Your this question,i do not know why,but took me back when we were not so called civilizedas we know to day ourselves.
Then gradually civilization started to develop and man first started to realize about law and it was law of nature and many develop an inner sense of self discipline, they were fast to catch the law of nature,the life in it,they had a feel that whole universe is gift to human by GOD.
Others also developed but with a lesser self discipline, with element of greed and possessiveness and the journey of law that you are looking for began then.
Those who had the notion of self discipline
within them with notion that the whole universe is their as gift of God stood recognized as preachers automatically for
those who were larger in numbers but with element of possessiveness and greed.
Then they started to have issues like whose is what because they lacked the inner sense of self discipline,they started to have issues which required resolution,a decision or an out door discipline from preachers who has a superiority of sense over these masses.
The preachers started to resolve disputes in the name of command of GOD which gave birth to DHARMA needless to tell those who knows correctly that DHARMA IS NOTHING BUT LAW laid down by different preachers in different geographies as per the need of discipline required for the society leaded by these preachers.
Then a smarter sect of those who were full of greed got greedy of the powers these preachers had.This started a second story
of law ,that is to say,MIGHT IS RIGHT,ONE WHO CAN OVER RULE OTHERS BY HIS UNRULINESS
BECAME RECOGNIZED AS RULER-THE KING-THEN KING OVER KING AND IT CONTINUED-WHAT?-GREED OF POWER!THEN DEFINITION OF DHARMA TOOK A GREAT TURN-THE COMMANDS THAT WERE TO BE OBEYED BY SUBJECTS IN THE NAME OF GOD-NOW
STOOD REQUIRED TO BE OBEYED IN THE NAME SOVEREIGN.Hence now LAW became defined as the COMMAND OF SOVEREIGN-those-though development jurists have changed it a bit more sophisticated gradually recognizing more and more human rights and guaranteeing
it constitutionally or by U.N.S' human right charters.THE REAL BACTERIA IS STILL THE SAME.
WHAT THEN I WANT TO CONVEY IF YOU OR ANY ONE WHO GOES THROUGH IT AND FINDS IN HIS OPINION AS IRRELEVANT TO YOUR QUESTION.
BUT I DO HAVE A POINT TO MAKE OUT OF IT.THAT IS THOSE WHO HAVE INNER DISCIPLINE DO NOT NEED ANY LAW AND THEY ARE TRULY LIBERATED ,THEY ENJOY TRUE FREEDOM,TRUE RIGHTS THEY POSSESS AND DO NOT OFFEND OR ENCROACH OR CREATE PERSONALITY CONFLICT,DO NOT LOOK TO COMPETE WITH OTHERS FOR ANY MATERIALISTIC GAINS OR POWER.
THEN THOSE WHO LACK SELF DISCIPLINE ARE SLAVES.HENCE EACH DAY SOVEREIGNTY LAYS A LAW BUT WHAT HAPPENS IN EFFECT ONLY TABLE TAKES A TURN.THE BALL SHIFTS FROM ONE COURT TO THE OTHER.
MY POINT IS THAT LAWS RELATING TO INTER HUMAN RELATIONSHIP MORE PARTICULARLY FAMILY
RELATION SHIP CAN NOT CHANGE THE SITUATIONS
FACED.FOR MOST OF THE TIME THEY ,I REALIZE, TURN THE TABLE TO OTHER SIDE.THE IMBALANCE REMAINS THE SAME WAY.
THE POINT I WANTED TO PROVE THAT THESE LAWS
CAN NOT BE OF ANY HELP,MORE PARTICULARLY IN
CLOSE HUMAN RELATIONS UNLESS THERE IS A CHANGE IN VERY PSYCH OF HUMAN.
PARLIAMENTARIANS CAN NOT CHANGE SOCIAL EVILS BY LEGISLATING LAWS UNLESS THEY BY THEIR LEADERSHIP SHOW THEMSELVES SOME ILLUSTRATION TO BE FOLLOWED.A SHIFT IN PARADIGM IS REQUIRED.
TO CONCLUDE YOUR PROBLEM CAN NOT BE DEALT BY ANY EXTERNAL LAW,EVEN IF IT IS THERE, THOUGH THERE IS NONE.
YOU ALL NEED TO RE FABRICATE FOR A BETTER MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING BY CREATING MUTUALITY
AND DUALITY.LEAVING EGO AND ADOPTING RATIONALITY IS THE REQUIREMENT.
M V Gupta
(Expert) 28 November 2011
Dear Mr. Abhinay Shah,
This is nothing new in Indian houses. Since there is no understanding between Mother in law and the daughter in law, the best thing your family can think of is not going to the Court of law, but trying to solve the problem by seperate living. All of you should encourage your elder brother to think of shifting his family to another house. This in the long run will give positive results.
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(Expert) 27 November 2011
