Legal separation from bpd wife
Sri
(Querist) 08 November 2013
This query is : Resolved
Hi Sirs,
I got married 5yrs ago and have a boy baby. After few months of marriage, I was tortured by my wife even for small things. She and her parents planned to separate me from my parents and she started the argument. Her brother also stays in Bangalore and hence it becomes very easy for her. Even for small things, he will come and fight with me. Since she threatened that she will complain that my father sexually abused her and no other way, I accept for separate family. Then after 3 months again, she and her family tortured me. By listening to her voice, she tried to abolish my baby. But I saved him. Every time she used abuse words and threatened to commit suicide. Then I will inform their parents and she will go to her home. After someday, our relative will talk and they will send her. She will be calm for some days and again same scene will starts. She is more driven by her mother voice. She will argue that I am planning for second marriage; I am not a proper male, I and my mother share bed and so on. 2 years back, her father expired and they partition the property. Her brother took my wife without my notice and got sign from her. Then they argued that I tortured her and hence she came. She tries to give poison to my son. Then I made police complaint and there after comprise in police station, I took her back. Some of their relative told that she is like this even before marriage and need to check once with psychiatrist. But she and her mother refused. Again her cruelty started like her father (already expired) came to home and I need invite and talk with him. This happens in the midnight. First, I thought it might be because of her father dead but later identified as her torture. Once she took poison and admitted her in hospital. That time, her brothers discharged her from the hospital without my knowledge and made a police complaint. That time, I file a HMOP case for conjugal rights. I explained all to police with the help of lawyers and they send her with me. Then her bothers asked me to take to psychiatrist as some doctor told when she took poison. I refused as they are not showing me the doctor prescription. I feared as they may plan something against me. Finally, they took her for the first time and I took then onwards. Last 9 months she was under meds and doctor diagnosed as Paranoid schizophrenia. Again, hearing her mother’s voice, she stopped meds. As a result, again argument started. Her abusing words, threaten to run some where else, to commit suicide started
As per Dr’s advice, we admitted her in hospital even without telling her as she is refusing for medicines. Here, Dr diagnosed as ‘BPD’ and not Paranoid schizophrenia as previous Dr told. I have all medical reports. Now, she is talking as if she was totally changed but I am not ready to listen her as she fooled me for the past 5 years.
Could you guide with your expert advice, can I file legal separation? Is it possible to get back my son from her?
ABDUL RAZIQUE
(Expert) 08 November 2013
Yes you can file legal separation and also file another case for child custody.
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 09 November 2013
She is suffering BPD Boarderline Personality Disorder. She requires constant medication. Her behavior is not willful. You have to tackle somehow that she should get the medication regularly. You have suffered for 5 years. Suffer for few more months as she is the mother of your child. Love and compassion will bring some change after medication is over. Ofcourse, recourse of legal separation and child custody will be available to you at any time if there is no change in the behaviour.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 09 November 2013
Agree with expert malipeddi jaggarao ji.
Sri
(Querist) 12 November 2013
Thanks to all for the reply. I worry what will happen during this medication period. Doctors are telling that there no is medication required and it is only thru counseling. She is threatening to commit suicide or run out of home. Their brothers are not willing to keep her during this period. Also is there any possibility of dowry harassment on me or my family.
ABDUL RAZIQUE
(Expert) 12 November 2013
left upon in the hand of time.
Sri
(Querist) 20 November 2013
Can I ask for any leagal security from my wife, wife's mother and brothers when she wife comes back to my home. Her mother's influence is more and I am fear of her activities. worried to safe guard me, my son and my Parents.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 20 November 2013
keep your wife medical reports that she is suffering from schizophrenia . since she has undergone medical treatment you need not worry . if your wife threatens to commit suicide record her calls .
she needs your compassion .
let her join some club wherein she will be busy in extra curricular activities . encourage her to go for long walks . you cannot ask for any legal security .
Sri
(Querist) 20 November 2013
But how to handle her mother's influence. Already my wife is having issues and her mother's words are adding to it (like ghee to fire). Their brother are cunning that they are also not listening to whatI say (because afraid that their mother will focus on their wives and they will get issues). I cannot ask not to talk with her mother. For the past 5 yrs, her mother is not listening. No peace of mind. just thinking about my son's life.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 20 November 2013
No legal way to prevent her mother to talk to her. Time is the great healer. Avoid your MIL and try to keep your wife in full confidence.
