Maintainance & alimony
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Anonymous
(Querist) 26 March 2025
This query is : Resolved
Dear Sir,
I have borderline personality disorder. Back in the 90s BPD was unheard of. So doctors couldn't diagnose me. I married my husband who has narcissistic personality disorder. This is a recipe for a disastrous marriage. As a borderline I engaged in sex with many people before marriage and I told my husband about it and I told him we can get a divorce since we do not have children. He pretended like supported me at that time and all the while he was poisoning me from time to time. I had severe health issues and nothing shows in the reports. He openly challenged me that nothing will ever show up in the reports and that only the both of us know the truth about poisoning. He filed for a divorce after 19 yrs of marriage. And he is not letting me heal from bpd. He still poisons me with the help of pg caretaker and the pg caretaker intimidates me with his smile always.i change my pg same story repeats. I cannot leave the city cause that's what he wants. He will make sure I will not attend court hearings and court will automatically grant him. a divorce.I discovered I have bpd only last year after separation from him. I have now fallen back to those patterns of multiple sex partners ,not simultaneously, indulging in risky behaviors as most bpds do. He is using my bpd running smear campaign getting me removed from jobs. He is taking revenge for my bpd. He is creating all this so he doesn't have to pay me alimony. He is an NPD. They are abusive, lack empathy, feel entitled, destroy many lives. Only bpds can heal. NPDs cannot heal. With the help of my pg caretaker they are creating ruckus so I leave the city.I have to admit in the court that I have bpd and indulge in sex. Can I do that? I need treatment. I am not a characterless woman. I am a bpd because of abuse and childhood trauma. and no diagnosis back them. It's become more after my husband left me and trying to financially break me and destroy me and make me leave the city. I indulge in self harm as bpds do. I think I will lose my alimony. I need money for multiple treatments not just for bpd but narcissistic abuse as well. I have multiple health issues because of his narcissistic abuse. I was a house wife for 19 yrs. How will I pay for treatments. My salary is very less. I have to now quit that too. My body cannot take it. He pays me a little but he is threatening to take that away too. NPDs are emotionally stunted 2 yr old kids trapped in adult's body. You cannot rationalize with them. Poisoning thing....I get tested for toxins nothing is showing in my reports like he challenged me nothing will ever show up in the reports. I need a surgery as well. Doctors seem in different to my poisoning. He has hacked my phone and I think he is influencing lab reports. Getting me removed from jobs. I filed a complaint in the police station. His atrocities are increasing. Please tell me what to do about the poisoning? How do I get the evidence. He is using my bpd to character assassinate me. Can I file bpd case declare in the court that I indulge in sex. I want my respect back. I am not a characterless woman. It's a coping mechanism for trauma. Why am I paying the price for something I am not responsible for? It's not fair. I am in my mid 40s. After marriage I never cheated on him while I was with him. I have a 19 yr old son who lives with his father. i was a mother to him until he was 5 or 6 years of age. After that my son had to be my mother. Today if I am alive it's because of my son. My husband didn't need to do all this. He could have gone ahead and married someone else. They are financially well off extremely well off. This is not a done thing after 19 yrs of marriage.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 26 March 2025
You can contact a local lawyer and discuss your issues at length and proceed as advised.
