Hindu brother adamant on marrying christian girl
Guest
(Querist) 21 November 2016
This query is : Resolved
We are Delhi based Hindus.
My brother is marrying his Indian Christian colleague.The girl says she won’t convert to Hinduism.We have agreed to this.However her family said marriage will occur in church only.
We agreed here too but we stated that we’ll conduct a reception on the next day which will have Hindu pheras too.To this they suddenly became quiet,but agreed.
Recently we expressed our wish to the girl's family to register the marriage through Special Marriage Act before church wedding (we have heard that church wedding could convert my brother.)
But they are ignoring this issue.
What are we to do?Can they convert my brother if registration does not occur through special marriage act before the actual church wedding??How to prevent any conversion?
Secondly I'm not getting very good vibes because:
My brother said that girl is very quiet,compatible and assured she'll always participate in all our traditions and festivals.Yet she refused to take parshaad once during one of her visits.
She did not even wish our family on Diwali this year.Rather my mum wished her in evening,and then she wished back through whatsapp around 6 PM.
She was exchanging glances with her father when my mum was discussing our traditions with her mother.Rather she commented to my brother mockingly in another room in front of me,"what discussions are going on?"
When my mum told her she'll have to sit on a chowki(low stool) during pheras,she made a facial expression (as if it's a hassle)
When we served her a dessert,she commented(though politely),"it's very heavy"
My dad told my brother about special marriage act,and he reacted hysterically that we are troubling him.he wants peace nd therefore he'll compromise at any cost.I think he does not realise that girl's family is hiding the conversion thing,otherwise he would have known long back that could be converted.
Now we are left in the lurch.Our only issue is conversion.We have no issue with interreligion mrriage.Now what are we to do?
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 22 November 2016
No church will allow this marriage unless your brother converts.
even if an unscrupulous church padri allows this, still the marriage is illegal.
unless the girl converts as Hindu then then marriage by pheras will be illegal.
In such a case your brother can land in rape charge due to illegal marriage if the relations turn discordial (which you may not like to hear now but it is reality). All those who attend such marriage can also be charged as abettors (your entire family).
The girls is unconditionally announcing (atleast appearing from your blog) that she is never and never going to adjust in any way at any point in your family. It matters little if you are turning deaf.
If this is the way your brother wants to have peace then it is time for you to forget him and drop him to his fate.
Special marriage is the only legal way unless boy/girl converts to other religion.
After this the marriage will be complete and legal and thereafter you can have the drama of Church or temple marriage which are of no consequence.
CHURCH WILL NOT AT ALL ALLOW MARRIAGE WITH NON-CHRISTIAN (even for drama sake) AND WILL INSIST ON CONVERSION EVEN IF MARRAIGE IS ALREADY LEGAL UNDER SPL MARRIAGE ACT HAS TAKEN PLACE.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 22 November 2016
"We have no issue with interreligion mrriage.Now what are we to do? "
Indian law already provides the solution which your brother and girl do not appear to be appreciating.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 22 November 2016
Religion is personal matter.
Conversion is personal matter.
You already know and have interacted to keep your brother with you::: "we expressed our wish to the girl's family to register the marriage through Special Marriage Act before church wedding "
Mr. Sudhir Kumar has explained the details.
Your brother might have decided to convert.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 22 November 2016
You may also go thru:
http://indianexpress.com/article/india/india-news-india/hindu-christian-marriage-not-valid-if-either-does-not-convert-madras-hc/
PARDEEP KUMAR
(Expert) 22 November 2016
My Brother 'Sudhir Kumar' has explained, advised in detail, not only the law but also the future of this case. However, my observation, opinion is:
1. Make your Brother understand the reality, this Girl won't be adjusting in your family and you all would be visiting various courts sooner or later.
2. If still he don't understand, go for marriage, according to the provisions of Special Marriage Act only, no need for any Church or Temple marriage.
3. In case, the Girl do not agree to marriage under Special Marriage Act only, and your Brother is still keen to do whatever, she/her family says, then, I am sorry to say, either you all forget him or be ready to face the music.
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 22 November 2016
nothing to add more.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 22 November 2016
Well advised by the expert Sudhir Kumar, agree to it.
