Husband tortures uses baby to blackmail
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Anonymous
(Querist) 19 March 2024
This query is : Resolved
My husband and I used to stay in city while his parents stayed in village.Every weekend and holidays we would visit his parents.My mother in law was verbally abusive,she would make my life hell.She would never let me go out with my husband.( She would orally tell me to sit at home,let father in law and her son attend functions).Even we could not go on honeymoon.My husband would make me sit with his parents while he went out with friends to enjoy.He would not even look after household expenses.When I was pregnant He would even make me order from swiggy as I could not cook.He would demand that I purchase lots of things for him.(Everything orally)He would demand I get my salary slip on a daily basis.I have given multiple gifts to his family and him.I was forced to call his parents on daily basis.(Calling was not aproblem,but his mother would daily abuse me over phone- hence already stressed from worklife I had to bear her insults ex: if she had a cold she would blame etc).After birth of baby due to lack of sleep and duty to take care of baby I was not able to call them.Hence my mother in law would complaint with my husband and create problems.Husband would always shout and create problems.He would always come to room during feeding sessions and shout in front of baby.I would always remain meek and silent inorder to not aggravate him further.But this continued every week as he would visit his parents.and when returning back he would start fights.I had begged him multiple times to not fight in front of baby.He would ask me to travel from his parents place to work which was totally impossible as my baby was small.Every day fights became a norm.He would not leave until I cried or begged.I believe he was sadist.As the rented room where we were staying was quite and difficult with baby as he was always not there for us.My parents took another apartment in the same eapartment where they stayed.I was paying rent to my parents.My husband left me and baby in the rented apartment .after which I am only taking all the responsibility of baby including financial.after three months he sent a letter in registered post to my workplace" that I have left him with my baby,my father did not like him and all lies he wants me to return back but he is not willing to stay in that apartment.He wants to stay in another rented place far from my parents.He wants me away from people and parents so that again he can continue torturing me,which he can't do if my parents are nearby.i have no proof of his abuse and torture.But I can no longer bear his torture.He has told me multiple times that he married me only because of my work .but I do not have any recording proof.What can I do.he does not want to spend a dime,hence not going forward for divorce.his father is ex police with influencerother is lawyer etc.hence he had told tht he will shut me down and prove me wrong.As my job is also not permanent for future of the baby I want maintenance just for baby.because one persons salary won't be enough in the long run.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 20 March 2024
You have lot of avenues open before you to get the reliefs.
But once you start a legal process against him, then the problems will aggravate more.
If you are ready to face legal consequences due to this legal action against him then you can proceed.
You don't be worried whoever his father is or what his brother is, you can proceed fearlessly with the decision taken by you.
kavksatyanarayana
(Expert) 20 March 2024
You go for marriage counselling, which helps the couple overcome their immediate problems, resolve conflict and improve their relationship. It also equips them to meet future issues. Through counselling, a couple can get better insight into their deteriorating relationship, identify the crucial factors behind their differences and make a rational decision rather than choosing the ultimate separate ways.
P. Venu
(Expert) 21 March 2024
The posting suggests that you are too confused as to facts as well the course of action. Try to avail counselling, legal as well marital, identify the critical aspects which could be the causes for action and initiate further steps in your best judgment and also, in consultation with friends and well wishers.
