Kindly help me
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Anonymous
(Querist) 24 January 2024
This query is : Resolved
We have been married for almost 2 years. For the last 6 months we have been seriously arguing regarding the birth of a child because she does not want to have a child for the next 1 year. Both of us are 37 years old. She told that after one year she will need my bank account statement in order to decide whether to give birth to a child or not. I told her that I will bear my child expenses but still she is not ready. Due to this, trust issues are increasing day by day. Apart from this she doesn't listen to anything I say.
She is very stubborn, her self-respect comes behind even the smallest things, that's why she does the opposite of whatever I suggest to her. Actually she used to live a PG life which she still likes to live. She keeps her mobile phone locked.. She does not care about my health, (she has no emotions at all) . Few days back I was unable to lift my foot, ( it might be a small stroke, I have not get it checked as there is some improvement) maybe due to tension. She loves to sit alone with her mobile phone which remains locked due to this doubts appears. Whenever she goes to meet parents, she is not willing to come back. All such issues are disturbing my mental and physical health but she is very careless. what should I do now? My life is becoming hell day by day. I have stopped talking to her for last 1 week may be this end her ego
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 24 January 2024
These are trivial issues and very common among the egoistic wives.
Your marriage is hardly two years old, hence your patience and understanding may bring solutions shortly.
Your impatience and unable to manage or understand the situation may bring disasters.
If you still feel that this may not work then you can decide about quitting the marriage.
You can ask her to agree for mutual consent divorce.