love marriage against family wish
brijesh
(Querist) 27 May 2008
This query is : Resolved
Hello. I am in a love relationship with a girl from last five year. We both are Hindu. I am based in Hyderabad now and she is in Delhi. I am working with ICICI bank and she has just completed her masters in Advertising and PR. A month before when I went to Delhi to see her and unfortunately her family came to know about our relationship (she meets a boy). Her family (joint) consists of many Police officers at higher rank like SDO and Special cell, two of them are lawyers in high court and some of the young people have sound relationship with criminals and politicians. After they learned every thing from her they forced her to go with them to the nearest police station and file a complaint against me stating that I was forcing her for a physical relationship and blackmailed her that if she doesn’t meet me when I call her than I would call her parents and reveal everything about our relationship. She was very scared and she wanted to protect our relationship so she signed such documents at once without any nagging or asking any question. Now she has gained confidence in her family that she was not much involved in such relationship and it was just friendship and I was the culprit who forced her to fall in love with me.
On the other side they disconnected the landlines number, seized her mobile phone and not allowing going outside alone for anything. Some how we managed to established communication after such incident. Now we are planning to run and marry against our families wish and fight against all odds together. She is 22+ and I am 24. She is of sound mind and not affected by any disease such as epilepsy. I am also self dependent having an annual income of 350000 and would be able to take care of her. Now the questions rises after we get married they will search us in a day as they know everything about me and also they are into administration. So please guide us(1) how we can marry in a single day and get all the legal certificates and evidences that required proving that we are married in the court of law. (2)The FIR done against me how can it be taken back by her and is it punishable that it is a false allegation by her and family. (3) My family (in Siliguri west Bengal) is also against our relationship but they will not harm us. How can her family harm my family in such a case and how to protect them? (4) How to protect my marriage relationship and her legally (NGO, Women protection cell, Petition in high court for safety) because I know that they will not sit quite and will try to harm us legally and illegally. I don’t want to leave her alone and don’t want to go to jail for one day also so guide me how can I prepare myself before hand against all odds and what legal protections I can take form the court. In any case the girl will always stand by me; she is very brave when she is there with me. I have fully trust on her that she will never go against me. Wherever I stay what role the nearest police station can play, how can all the cases be justified in the place where I stay because I don’t want to go to Delhi and fight against any case?
I seek Guidance from everyone having relationship with law.
Thanking all of you in anticipation.
Brij
david vijaykumar
(Expert) 28 May 2008
You have 4 queries viz
(1) how we can marry in a single day and get all the legal certificates and evidences that required proving that we are married in the court of law?
There are several ways - (a) Go to any temple with witnesses, get married by the temple priest and obtain certificate from the temple.
(b) Registrar of marriages who gives certification of registration of marriage.
(2)The FIR done against me how can it be taken back by her and is it punishable that it is a false allegation by her and family
For the present let FIR remain till the dust is settled and the same can be taken back at any time. Mere filing FIR is not punishable. At the most you can seek anticipatory bail to prevent arrest in case of further process.
(3) My family (in Siliguri west Bengal) is also against our relationship but they will not harm us. How can her family harm my family in such a case and how to protect them?
File an application before Station House Officer of area where your parents stay explaining factual position with witnesses, along with your girl friend (if married, your wife) and request them to keep record.
(4) How to protect my marriage relationship and her legally (NGO, Women protection cell, Petition in high court for safety) because I know that they will not sit quite and will try to harm us legally and illegally.
File an application before Court of appropriate jurisdiction and obtain an order of declaration against the persons, organisations whom you anticipate problems.
The above answers are only probable guidelines and need not be fool-proof but ultimate decisions should be arrived based on the legal practitioners of the concerned area. One has to manage the situation based on the given circumstances under law and practice.
brijesh
(Querist) 29 May 2008
Thankyou very much sir for the quick reply.I will again contact you whenever I will have any query.Thankyou very much again.
SANJAY DIXIT
(Expert) 20 June 2008
In these type of marriages; nobody can harm you till your wife is in your faith and with you.
