Should a wife listen to all that her husband commands?
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Anonymous
(Querist) 06 September 2011
This query is : Resolved
Mine was an arranged marriage and i agreed for the marriage on the terms that my husband would settle alongwith me in Mumbai. Inspite of having a good job here in Mumbai, my husband abruptly took a decision of shifting to Pune to stay with his parents and left his job in Mumbai after the birth of our son. He was working in Mumbai for 3 years and when he shifted to Pune, he was jobless for about 13 months. I was totally unaware of his decision, as i had come to stay with my parents for the delivery period and he told me and my parents about shifting just five days prior of the shifting, expecting me to come alongwith him to Pune. He left the place where we stayed on rent, he cancelled the flat which we had booked in Mumbai and left his job also without even informing me. This decision of my husband was indirectly taken by my father in law. My inlaws behaviour towards me is not good and moreover my husband also blindly listens to them and tortures me mentally. He had also demanded money from me oftenly. So i don't want to stay with them in Pune. Also my father in law has taken away all the savings of my husband and made him financially dependant. They now say that they never had any intention of settling in Mumbai. They have cheated me.And now they are harrassing me by sending their relatives and sending some formal/legal letters blaming me and my brother/mother for not coming to Pune. Its now almost one and half year i am staying at my parents house. In between i had consulted a lawyer also but my father in law met my lawyer and told him some other story. I had a good running business here in Mumbai but now i had to close it and do a job as i have to look after my child. What should i do?
Advocate. Arunagiri
(Expert) 06 September 2011
Your query is not a legal query.
My suggestion is give and take the basic principle of the married life.
If you think that you have the right of demanding him to come to Mumbai, he is also think that he is having the right of demanding you to come to Pune.
The place of marital house is not going to give the pleasure.
Dont involve 3rd parties to discuss with your husband. You personally go and meet or call him and meet, discuss.
It seems you dont have any other complaints. Taking a drastic decision is easy, but life after that is not so easy.
So, I repeat, give and take. You will have a happy life.
Dr Anil Kumar Singh
(Expert) 06 September 2011
Expert Arunagiri has given an advice which is very correct but people seldom give it to others. You have a flourishing married life as I think and you are an able lady. Assist your husband in settling down at new location so that he may look after you and his newly born child and take care of his parents whose child is he like yours you have. Don't shatter you life as till now it is not involving any legal aspect. Have a good and clear dialogue with your husband on all aspects so that the life is easy for you both.
Dr G V Rao
(Expert) 06 September 2011
Agree with Arunagiri. this is a legal forum and the lady could consult a marriage counselor than posting it here. I sympathize with her but let us maintain rules of being purely legal.
K.S.Srinivas
(Expert) 06 September 2011
I agree with the suggestion of exert Arunagiri.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 06 September 2011
I do agree with the advice of all experts.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 06 September 2011
In nutshell a matrimonial life starts on mutuality and couples lead happy life till they understand the word else they start ruining there union and fate of there offspring by accumulating wealth of ego the devils have.
Now a days parents of husbands have become most objectionable term to wives who allow there matrimonial life destroyed under guidance of their own parents who run academy to train how to dominate and over rule the husbands.
