want an opinion in my marriage with my wife..
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Anonymous
(Querist) 03 October 2010
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Dear All,
I want an opinion for below mentioned facts...
The relation between me and my wife before marriage was a relation of Uncle and niece.. But my age is 24 and she is 23...The relation is as follows...
My Grandfather had done a marriage with a lady who died and then he had done a marriage with my Grandmother... the lady who died has a son , who has a grand daughter..
I have done marriage with that girl as we love each other from past 7 years.. we have done marriage this year without our parents concerned. then her parents took her from my place.. then i filed a case to bring her but when she came to court she denied to live with me because of family pressure.. she admitted that she is my wife. Now i had been advised by some advocates to file a RCR in dist.. court.
I just wanna know that as we have already done marriage in arya samaj mandir , would there be any impact of my previous relationship in filing RCR. Will i get my wife back.
Please advise wat should i do.... I dont wanna lose her..
and also tell me that wat all things other party can do to retain the possession of my wife..
Thanks All,
Waiting for advices...
adv. rajeev ( rajoo )
(Expert) 03 October 2010
RCR is not excutable order. You have to convince her and her family, inspite of your effort she didn't turned up go for divorce.
PALNITKAR V.V.
(Expert) 03 October 2010
Rajeev is absolutely right. you should be patient and should take efforts to convince your wife as well as her parents, if you are convinced that your wife still loves you and willing to come to you but for the pressure of her family members. Of course you should also file RCR. That may help in arriving at some settlement with the help of counsellors and the Court.
Kiran Kumar
(Expert) 03 October 2010
i agree with opinion expressed by Mr. Palnitkar
G. ARAVINTHAN
(Expert) 03 October 2010
try to bring her to you through talks by some close persons.
you cannot make the horse to drink the water forcefully
Kirti Kar Tripathi
(Expert) 03 October 2010
Your problem could be solved by mutual understanding, pursuation and reconciliation only. legal recourse is not advisable
Dr G V Rao
(Expert) 03 October 2010
As long your wife wants to join u and live with you, my simple suggestion would be to avoid RCR. Why waste time and resources when she does not appear to be inclined to join u. If you love doing something, then family pressures can be negated.I agree with Aravinthan and Rajeev.
Chanchal Nag Chowdhury
(Expert) 03 October 2010
Only RCR will not do. It is good that she has admitted marriage but U cannot force her into RCR against her will. However, if peer pressure is the only problem,talk to her & instill in her a sense of security. If all these fail, it leads to the only conclusion that the marriage has irretrievably broken down & in that event, U have no alternative but to go in for divorce.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 03 October 2010
I am totally agree with above advices but the problem is i m not able to talk to my wife. her father is police officer in U.P so he is slightly feanik kind of guy. Under no circumstances i will be allowed to talk to her. even she dont have any friends through which i can send a message...
She talked me in month of june and she talked very nicely....... she told me that she want to come with me but her father is giving her threat to kill me and destroy my family.. So at that time Somehow i managed to convince her but there is a gap of 3 months between my conversation and the court date.. I dont knw under wat pressure she has made the decision....
plz advise wat i do so that i can talk to her..
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 03 October 2010
I disagree totally that the RCR can not be executed. The rcr decree can indeed be executed like any other money decree.
There is nothing illegal in talking to her and if possible better to move to some undisclosed destination so her family members could not lay their prying eyes.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 03 October 2010
Mr. Devajyoti , I dont understand wat u r teying to tell me... Can you please provide ur Contact no. so that i can talk to u on phone.............
Thanks
