Hello experts,
I have been living in abroad (North America) for the last two years.
I got married in the month of May 2015 as per the Hindu Marriage Act and it was an arranged marriage. Same day evening, after my marriage in the morning, she said that one of her ovaries was removed because of infection and she don't know the reason for getting it infected. I was bit angry and told her that she should have informed me before the marriage. She cried and convinced me some how.
Everything looked fine for two to three days after the marriage. I then noticed some strange behavior in her and she started behaving differently (moody, hyperactive, depression, over affection) and shouted at me many times without any reason. She has some suicidal thoughts and told to me that she's dare enough to commit suicide. She even behaved hysterically when we went for a restaurant and everyone there were afraid and moved away from our table.
As I was on marriage leave for a month, I had to come back in June. She said that she will stay at her parents house in another town for a couple of months as she has to write her final exams to finish her degree. [But later I came to know that she just wrote two to three papers out of 15 (she failed in all her previous exams as well)].
After discussing with her parents, they took her to a Psychiatrist. As per the doctors, she is suffering from mood disorders. Her parents are saying that they too don't know about her mental condition until now (believable?). After two months of medication, in the month of August, her parents said that she is fine and there is no problem with her now. Believing that, my parents brought her to their home. But within two days she started behaving as she had done previously (depressive talks, quarrelling with my parents unnecessarily, quarreling with me over the skype talks, etc). I believe her mental condition is not good and she even urinates unknowingly while sleeping. When asked, she says that its very normal and she will speak to the Psychiatrist during her next visit.
[I also came to know that she is suffering from mood disorders for few years before the marriage and sometimes she says that her medications for the depression infected the ovary and sometimes she says that she don't know the reason. She says that she thought there is no need to inform me before the marriage regarding her ovary removal.]
I tried to adjust many times but her psychic behavior is causing me and my parents a problem. Even psychiatrist told her that she is lucky as she got a supporting family and that she should change for a happy future. But there is no change in her till date.
Now the psychiatrist told that she has to undergo medication and therapies for six months and then they can advice if she can come to USA and start a family life.
Also, before the marriage, I was told by her parents (infront of her) that she is very intelligent, a top scorer in her studies, wants to do PhD and is eager to find a job. But later I came to know that she can't even read and understand a paragraph and can't even write (English and also native language). When I ask her now, she says that she will learn everything and it's her parents who said that she is intelling but not her.
Overall, I am feeling cheated by her and her parents. She applied for a dependent Visa last month. In the Visa application form, there were some questions related to mental and physical health condition/medication. Now I came to know she had hidden the facts.
Should I bear her for the rest of my life? Can I get separated from her legally through marriage annulment or divorce?
Please advice.
-KKKK