Rcr show cause notice sent to my sister from her husband

Hi

My brother in law has filed for restitution of conjugal rights case against my sister. He has mentally harassed her and after several advice he is has not improved.

She has left him 4 months ago, and he has now sent this notice. What should we do now? 

Let your sister go back, ask your BIL to move separately from his parentage, in order to live happy marital life.  If he is unable to make a separate accomodation and does need financial help, then, try to help him in arranging finances.

His father had given her death warning in the past and abused my elders in the family all the time.

They started threatning her to give her income to her husband.

Nothing wrong in wife parting her salary with her husband, after all, he is her husband, not an enemy right?

She been supporting me and my mother financially.

You should find a job for yourself, stop begging for alms, become independent and earn enough money that you can look after your parents and also part some money with your sister as pocket money to her out of love and affection.

My income is not so high and she's been managing all the heavy expenses along with her loans for marriage etc. 

Work harder, change jobs, sitting at one place telling that my income is not high is not a solution to your problems or your sister's problems.  Ensure a fair lifestyle for yourself and your parents.  

My mother had a accident recently and she's bed riden for 3 months.

 

Please advice what is the next step she should be taking  to get out of it. she doesn't want to go back to him, he's got somepsychological disorders.

DO you have proof of it'?
Thanks in advance for your help.

Ravi

Bangalore

Thanks Helping Hand. Please see my reply...

1.  They live separately. However he only listens to his parents for every thing in his life. My sister is irritated with his behavior.

Mamma's boy, its the upbringing, even if your BIL is 50 he will surely seek advice from his mom, take it or leave it.

2.  They call and abuse her if she does anything on her own for their house.

Too much interference from either side, is surely a trouble maker.

3.  She has been warned not to visit my mother's house frequently, though she lives just 10mins away from their house.

Wife keeps on visiting mom's house, does not give a good look overall to any married couple, maybe yes in the initial stages, but one should limit themselves before other people like in-laws  start objecting. 

She has been giving half rent and manages expenses for grocery etc.

 

4.  His father had given her death warning in the past and abused my elders in the family all the time.

Heated arguments will only lead to more damage [here too it takes two to tango].

 

5.  She knows abt this and she's been telling her husband to look for a flat for themselves and want to contribute.

That is a good move, your sister should talk to her husband one-on-one about all this.  If her husband's income is also not that good, then obviously he will shy away from buying or renting a flat.
 

My salary is sufficient for me to takecare of myself and my mother. However, i could not do much for her wedding expense...also my sister manages my mother's medical expense as part of her medical insurance as a dependent.




Yes i agree and will take your suggesstion.
 

6.  My sister had discussed with her in laws and they have not denied it completely, but only argued he is not abnormal. She has been telling them to take him to a doctor, but nothing has  happend so far.
Like this it is very difficult to prove that her husband is of unsound mind.

My sister has decided to move on and file for divorce. Old age parents nor her supporting me has influenced this decision. her husband will not stop her parents taking decision for his family, nor my sister can do any good on her own for her and her husband.

7.  everything needs to be approved by her inlaws and he gives updtes to them everyday what happens here.

At last, its her life and she's capable to handle anything that comes in her way to get out of it.

 

Thanks for all the support recieved for you all.

Please wish good luck for my sister.

Summing up 1, 2, 3 and 7.  This is married life, you cannot expect some wonderlamp and a genie to miracles overnight,.  Most of the so called successfully married people who have been married for decades together follow only one thing, which is called adjustment, or else almost each and every man in India would have filed for divorce and every woman would have filed for divorce.  It takes a lot of patience to lead a marital life, when a girl gets married and moves in to in-laws house or even a separate accomodation, you will not be living with lions, lionessess, tigers and tigresses that each be provided a separate cage.  DIfferences will be there, how to handle such difference of opinion is totally in the hands of the newly-weds, here your sister and her husband.  Anyway its up to your sister now.

Knowing what you want from life is a good thing.  But here your sister is talking about divorce.  Divorce in India is a very costly and tediously gruesome affair, which will leave holes in both the wife and husband's pocket, not to mention the time frame [5-6 years] for contested divorce.  If her husband agrees for mutual consent divorce, then in 6 months she will get divorce.  If her husband is adamant then God save your sister.  Looking at your query, you all are having financial difficulties and not that a well to do family.  Here in LCI, advices are given free of cost, just to guide any querist to the way out of trouble.  But once if your sister is proceeding for divorce, all advices will be charged aptly by her lawyer and it could be a one shot payment or a continuous process, and litigation expenses can be claimed from husband only once, and not every now and then, rest all your sister has to manage,  ie paying fees to the lawyer.