Asking divorce after 2days of marriage & behaving rude laungage for separation.Pls guide me what to
praveen
(Querist) 12 July 2011
This query is : Resolved
Respected Sirs
My marriage was carried out on 29 May 2011, engagement was on 23rd May and intercaste with arranged through Marriage beauro.
After reception (on 30th May) we both came to brides home and 3rd day we have to go to my house.
But she was not interested to come with me to my home so myself only gone.
From the second day onwards she is asking for divorce, i really shocked what went wrong.
I asked so many times but she didnt told anything for the first one week.
Some friends and her close relatives had influenced then she diverted her attitude.
After that she started scolding and rude laungage because i kept silent and asked her to tell the reason then i will agree for your request.
Then every time one new reason is telling, she says 'i am not having properties', not handsome, not having a car and etc.
But what ever the information is to convey all those things i clearly informed before marriage to the girl, to her parents, to the marriage bearo aboutmy Salary, company, qualification, property 9new house constructing), village house status, life style, food habits, health condition (i have sugar), when we
met through marriage beauro she agreed for all my qualities. Based on that i though t she understood everything then only we moved further.
Her father was not present at the time of first discussion because intercaste.
Then she forcibly managed to convince their family memebers, otherwise she was in a state to arrange a step father for Kanya danam.
Beauro person was stored all the messages and discussions of the girl before the marriage. She agreed for the marriage.
She was told not interested in sex on first night then we didnt had and i did not forced too. She required some time, I agreed.
On engagement day due to miscommunications to their family members the function was delayed.
We straight way told that if you are ready for marriage within a week then come for discussion otherwise stop.
They were agreed for that but their relatives changed the situation and bit delayed. On the day her phone was lost, we dont know how.
After marriage they raised the phone issue, she suspects that phone was stolen by my sister.
Then i put a police complaint on bearo girl since on that time she was there. After discussions with police i taken back the complaint.
Now the problem is she dont want to live with me and requires divorce.
Her parents says take her to my home and she is not ready to come. That too we also cannot take her forcibly.
I have changed my house to other area to start new life, but i am moving here and there since family man without wife.
If i take her or do not take her to my home what will be the future life consequences with this type of attitude and behaviour. dont know
Thanks for your valuable time for reading this.
Pls guide me what should I do.
adv. rajeev ( rajoo )
(Expert) 13 July 2011
To avoid the other future consequences and criminal legal actions against you, it is better to discuss with your parents and your in laws and with the elders of the society and take decision whether to live with her or go for divorce.
Ravikant Soni
(Expert) 13 July 2011
I add..
Try to gather evidence of your innocence. Like voice/ video recordings.
praveen
(Querist) 13 July 2011
I am very much thankful to you sirs and your suggestions.
Yes my family members are also ready to discuss to avoid any future problems. But spouse parents are seems to be not interested.
We are planning to discuss.
If we decided to go for separation/ divorce then how to go.
Whether it should be from court or family elders agreements. Any settlements?
If it is from court then it may take some time.
Yes Ravikant Sir: Marriage beauro is having some evidances like sms and video's of her statements before marriage.
I am also recording her conversations whenever she calls.
They didnt bought any gold arnaments for the marriage and no other items too.
They should not create any problems in future.
I will update the things.
Out of Court
(Expert) 13 July 2011
file a petition for mutual consent divorce, in any condition you both wl hv to live seperatly for atleast one year...hwever denial to cohabit nd abnormal demand of divorce by ur wife , u can use as dfence to avoid ny maintainance to ur spouse , but positievly get urself medicaly chk fr potency -;)
Out of Court
(Expert) 13 July 2011
file a petition for mutual consent divorce, in any condition you both wl hv to live seperatly for atleast one year...hwever denial to cohabit nd abnormal demand of divorce by ur wife , u can use as dfence to avoid ny maintainance to ur spouse , but positievly get urself medicaly chk fr potency -;)
praveen
(Querist) 13 July 2011
ok, we need to discuss with in-laws.
Yes abnormal demands only.
Is it required for medical checkup? Since we didnt gone to that stage (intercourse), that too iam fine.
Arun Kumar Bhagat
(Expert) 17 July 2011
File mutual divorce suit after a year from the date of marriage.
